009 | How This Kind of Listening Can Help Free You From Marriage Drama

Have you ever felt that when your spouse is listening to you, it only LOOKS like they're listening? That as soon as you're done speaking, they will unleash their advice and their opinions on you?

On this Thursday Thoughts episode, we'll discover HOW we listen matters just as much (or more) than the fact that we are listening. We'll also learn:

• that "listening to understand" is more important than "listening to convince"
• how listening to understand can help us escape the drama triangle

Resources:

“In a study of two types of listening, clinical psychologist Faye Doell demonstrated how people who listen in order to understand versus listen in order to respond have higher across-the-board relationship satisfaction.” 

from "Good Inside" by Dr. Becky Kennedy

https://www.goodinside.com/book/

An excellent article on the drama triangle:

https://www.idmin.org/_files/ugd/0d9c11_b989426836064bd3a9dfdfe15fe4e382.pdf

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